I was over thirty-five and still answering those embarrassing questions like, “How come you’ve never been married?” and “Do you live all alone in this big house?” or, “Don’t you have a boyfriend that you’re serious about?”
In an otherwise successful life, I had failed in “Meaningful Relationship I” and probably would have continued to do so if I hadn’t discovered the scientific secrets for loving.
Until then, my life was one relationship after another. I fell in love over and over again, but each time the affair ended in a disastrous breakup.
Although I had lots of opportunities with all kinds of men (some terrific, some not too great), I was never able to make love work out right before I began using the scientific secrets for loving. My relationships were so terrible, I became an expert at breaking up. and even became a relationship expert, advising young girls, using all my failures as examples.
But the more I talked to people about getting over the loss of a love, the more it became clear that what they really wanted was not to lose that love in the first place. Down deep, what they really wanted was a good love relationship, to love and be loved back.
“Why not?” they wanted to know. “Love is so right, so basic! Why is it so damn hard to find?”
Right then, I decided to spend as much time as it might take to discover what really makes love work. I spent nearly two full years researching the subject of love—and found no answers. Then, unexpectedly, while reading an obscure article about the psychology of human communications, everything “clicked” into place.
These new psychological findings, I realized with a rush of excitement, were the long-missing link in the mystery of love. There, before my eyes, was the explanation for why a few women seemed to find true love effortlessly—while the rest of us don’t.
These new discoveries about human behavior meshed totally with my other research and my own experiences. They filled in every gap in the Love Problem.
Putting it all together, I realized that I had even more than the explanations I wanted about why true love is so elusive. What it all added up to was a coherent, precise blueprint for finding love. At that moment, I knew I had discovered the secret for loving.
At first, it seemed too good to be true. So quietly, tentatively, I began to experiment with myself and a few trusted friends. Our sudden success in finding love was so apparent that others became curious. Soon my phone was ringing day and night with calls from people wanting to know the mysterious secret.
Somewhat awestruck, I watched The Love Plan create the “chemistry” of love, again and again. I grew more adept at explaining The Love Plan—and finally became determined to write this book.
The techniques in How to Make a Man Fall in Love with You work. I know because they have worked for me and everyone else who has tried them—even women who thought love had passed them by. Because I had these insights and had learned these techniques, I was ready for a real relationship when I met the right man. I knew what to do.
In the past, I would have ruined my chances with this relationship in the same way I had with the disasters that preceded it. Instead, I used The Love Plan approach.
Now, for the first time (in my forties), I am married and building a life together with someone I love.
I hope that by faithfully following The chapters of this book, everyone who reads this book will be as happy as I am.